I don’t know about you, but I desire to raise kind children. Children who grow up to become kind adults. Adults who are kind to strangers in the street, adults who are kind to their families. I desire to raise kind humans. I know I am not the only one who strives to do this either.
But how? In today’s society, where bullies and evil run rampant, how do we teach our children how to be kind?
Do you know that old saying? “Do as I say not as I do?” yea, that doesn’t work. Anyone with common sense would be able to figure out that children are sponges. They absorb EVERYTHING. Which means they mimic everything. Right now our oldest daughter B will point out anytime she thinks we are saying a bad word. We, most of the time, aren’t even aware that she is listening to us. But she is. If I say that is ridiculous, she responds with ‘Mommy, I am pretty sure ridiculous is a bad word.‘ I know it is not a bad word, and I explain that to her, however, ridiculous does sound like a word that could be hurtful to someone else. That is what she is on the hunt for. She is a sensitive soul, and she doesn’t want anyone to feel hurt. Her youngest sister is constantly saying thank you, please, and excuse me, without being prompted. She’s two. I know I am doing at least one thing right when it comes to raising her and her sister. They are kind.
Which brings me back to my question, How do you raise kind children? I believe it all comes back to us. The adults in their lives. Ask yourself. Are you a kind person? When you see someone coming behind you, do you hold the door open for them? Or do you let it slam in their face, reassuring yourself that they are perfectly capable of opening their own door. When you see an elderly person or pregnant woman on the bus, who need your seat more than you do, do you get up and let them have it? Is your child there with you? Do they see you being kind to a stranger?
What about those close to you? Your extended family and the people who live inside your home? Their grandparents, Your spouse, their siblings, them? When you are frustrated, do you use kind words to those around you or do you become a snappy crab? Biting everyone’s head off? When your child spills milk on the floor, do you lay into them or do you kindly reassure your child that it’s only milk after all, and it can be cleaned up, just like new?
Now I am not naive enough to think that everyone can control their frustrations 100% of the time. But I do know how you respond to your frustrations will teach your children how to respond to their frustrations. In today’s world, where people are absorbed more into their electronic devices and less tuned in to their families, let’s take the family back. Let’s show our children how to be kind. By first starting with ourselves, be a kind person, your child’s future depends on it.
I will be back tomorrow to share steps you can take to become kinder, if that is something you struggle with, I hope to see you back!
Until next time,