If I Could Tell my Teenage Self Anything.
When I was around the age of twelve I went through a phase.
I started wearing my brother’s baggy t shirts, his flannel shirts and my baggy jeans. I also wore my hair down in my face. If you were to ask my mother right now what she thought about that stage, she would tell you it drove her crazy. She fought the urge to pull my hair back, out of my eyes on a daily basis. This stage lasted around 6 months, maybe close to a year. Then I came out of it. I started pulling my hair back out of my eyes, and wearing clothes that weren’t so baggy.
I didn’t realize it then, but as I look back, I can see clearly that I was a preadolescent girl, going through puberty, hating the way my body was changing. I wanted to hide. I felt awkward and strange. My mom understood this. That was why she fought the urge, she knew it would pass eventually.
I know that I was still technically a preteen at this age. The women in my family go through puberty early. The hormones, the changes, they hit us (unfairly I might add) before many other girls. There is no doubt about it, the teenage years are raw and harsh for many.
Your body is changing.
Your emotions are out of whack. Often times you may seem like a crazy person because your hormones are causing you to feel a little to intensely. So much so, that sometimes it becomes impossible see straight.
Your brain is not fully developed yet (it doesn’t do that until your 25 years old!) Which means, often, when you believe you are making a rational decision based on facts, you are really just acting out of emotions and immaturity.
You are under peer pressure, especially if you attend public school. There is a pressure to want other kids your age to like you and to fit in. If that does not happen, you may feel victimized and depressed. You may feel like an outsider, or as though something is wrong with you.
You’re starting to notice the opposite sex and want them to like you. Possibly causing yourself to compromise who you are and what values you hold dear to you.
I went through a period around the age of sixteen where I was prepared to put my entire future on the line for a boy.
A boy who was not in any way good for me. Why was I willing to do this? It was because I thought I knew everything. I thought I was in love. I wanted to stick one to my parents, possibly? I’m not really sure, they both saw the path I was headed down and said no way and put a stop to our relationship. I was angry for a while. Then I grew up. As all teenagers do. I realized my parents were indeed right and I thanked them and apologized to them.
The teenage years are a difficult time period for many.
You are stuck in between being a child and being an adult.
There are even more pressures on today’s teenagers because of the overabundance of access to social media and other people.
None of these factors are necessarily bad, with the exception of peer pressure, but they make the teenage years hard for some because they all happen at. the. same. time.
I can tell you, as a teenager, I believed I was right about everything and my mom and dad were, well, wrong. Fast forward about 15 years, and now, at the age of 30, I can say without of a shadow of a doubt that my parents knew what they were talking about. Do you want to know how I know they were smarter than I thought they were? They to were teenagers once! So were your parents, and your grandparents.
Before you know it, if you aren’t already a parent to a teenager, you will have a teen who may think they know everything.
I asked around 20 people to share what they would say to their teenage self if they could go back and give themselves a piece of advice.
Here is the awesome advice they had to offer!
1. Try out for anything and everything you are interested in. Don’t be afraid to fail or be afraid to succeed.
2. Listen to your parents, they actually DO know more than you …
3. Don’t worry about what everyone thinks. Study hard. Take school seriously. Mama knows best – listen to her. Know your worth.
4. Listen to your mother and father. They really know more than you. Don’t date that boy. Try harder.
5. Be patient and this will pass. Maybe if I learned it earlier in life God wouldn’t have to keep teaching me over and over.
6. Stop quitting. And try harder.
7. Ask a lot of questions, have fun, do activities, be a kid while you still can.
8. Don’t move out just because your 18. You have to pay your own bills soon enough. Don’t rush to be an adult.
9. Don’t try and be the tough girl all the time – spend more time with your parents who are the only ones who have your back – and find my husband sooner!
10. You are perfect exactly as you are.
11. Stay away from the boy! Study and try harder in school. Just stay away from the boy.
12. Be a kid, don’t rush, soak the teenage years in, be adventurous, meet new ppl, listen to your parents ❤️
13. Learn what a FICO score is and why it’s important. Guard your credit.
14. Stay away from the wrong crowd, be yourself!!
15. Keep yourself pure!
16. It’s not the end of the world. It may seem like it but there is a whole future ahead of you; just breath. It’s not the end of the world.
17. You are special just as you are. Don’t try to change yourself.
18. I would tell myself to take more risks and trust God with your life.
19. Tell those you love them, often, you don’t know how much time you have left.
20. You wont be a teenager forever. Everything you are dealing with, will pass.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. -Ralph Waldo Emerson