Grief

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Today started off …

When my son passed away there were many well-meaning comments given to me that just rubbed me the wrong way. I know that most of these comments are meant for good. But I think that most grieving parents can come up with their own list of phrases not to say to a grieving parent.

There was a language barrier between the other bereaved family and my family. After the ceremony was over and we were reflecting on the candles we had lit in honor of our babies, I went over to hug the other lady. I shook her husband’s hand and told them who I was. I then leaned in to hug her. I wanted so badly to talk to her, but we couldn’t communicate without a translator.

You will have to learn to live life in a whole different way. This may seem difficult but it is possible. Be gentle with yourself. Allow other people to take care of you. Give yourself time to grieve and remember self- care is an important step in your grief. Life may not look like you thought it would, but you more than survive this. You can live again.

After you lose a baby any pregnancy afterwards can feel daunting. It can be difficult to learn to hope again.

Should a grieving parent affected by child loss just “hush” and accept every comment thrown their way?