My (not so great) Balancing Act

My (not so great) balancing act

If you have been reading my blog, you know that I have been out of commission for a while now. Why? You may ask. Well, to be completely honest, it is because I am terrible at balancing everything. In September I started homeschooling Kindergarten with my oldest, Preschool with my Niece, and Middle School with my Sister. On top of that, I have been trying to figure out how to balance homeschooling with being a wife, mother, household duties, My Usborne Business, babysitting my nieces, writing a book and so much more. Naturally my writing on this blog got pushed to the back burner.

Now that we are a few months into this homeschooling gig, I feel as though I am starting to get my grips on all the many things my plate is balancing. Therefore, I am going to throw writing back into it and see how well I hold up my (not so great) balancing act!

to be honest…

I have really enjoyed these last few months. Homeschooling is not easy. Homeschooling three separate grades with a toddler and infant under foot makes it that much harder. To all of you that have been doing it for years and years, with multiple grades and children, I commend you! I also will take any advice you have to offer. But, I am blessed to be able to offer this opportunity to my children, my sister and my niece. The reasons we chose to home school are many. If you would like me to do a post on these reasons I would be happy to share. However, I am glad we made this decision and we plan on continuing it all through both of our children’s education.

 

I know that life has seasons. Every season looks different and everyone has different seasons in their lives. Right now my season looks a little bit like this:

 

If your season is looking a bit like this, I want you to be encouraged! Eventually, your season will become more relaxed and less chaotic. You may look back on this memory of your life with fondness. (Or not!) We can all agree that many lessons are learned in chaotic seasons, when we are trying to figure out how to balance everything. Here are a few lessons I have learned over the last few months.

  1. Don’t forget that I am married too.

Yes, I am a mother and aunt who is homeschooling.  I am a sister who is doing what she can to help her sister succeed in her education. Yes, I am a daughter, a writer, a sales person, but I am something else as well. I am a wife. Before I was any of those things, I was his wife. When life is chaotic, take a minute and remember that you are a wife and your husband should not be put on the back burner, ever.

      2. God is my refuge and my strength.

Sometimes when life feels chaotic or too busy, it’s easy to forget that we have a safe place to run to. God. He is our refuge and our strength. It is necessary to retreat into the Lord. Set time aside to spend with him. Let him refresh you every day and every night by delving into His word.

      3. It won’t be like this for long.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes my child will be in a stage where I am begging for them to get a little bit older. A little bit easier. But the truth is when their current stage is gone, there is no getting it back. That is it. They are older, and so are you. I know that the old saying “enjoy the stage you are in because you won’t get it back” sounds so cliche. However, It is so true. I feel like every time I turn around my children have gotten taller, wiser, bigger, smarter, and time does not slow down for anyone. So, enjoy the time you are in. But rest assured, if you are struggling with this current stage “It won’t be like this for long.”

Here were my babies not to long ago:

 

B

S

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here they are now:

B

 

4. Lean on your family and friends.

I am blessed to have such a wonderful, supportive and loving family and friends. If you are blessed like me, I encourage you to take advantage of that blessing! When you feel like something is just to much right now, lean on your family. Give them a call if something is on your mind. Or even a quick text if you need encouragement or prayer. If you need rest, call one and see if they can watch the kids for you. Especially if you are in the new baby or young children stage. Don’t be so prideful in your parenting and “doing it all” that you stretch yourself to thin. God gave us family and friends for a reason!

My family and support system. We are missing a few, including my hubby!

 

Now that I have figured out my (not so great) balancing act, I plan on being back, writing as much as I can! I hope you all are glad I am back 🙂

 

Sincerely,

Jenna

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Homeschool, Usborne Books and Mud Baths.

It’s been a long time. I know.

I know that it has been a while since I have posted anything new. Life has a way of sneaking up on you and stealing your time and energy. That is what has happened here. We are in the midst of starting a new homeschool year with my kindergartener and preschool with my niece. This in itself has taken a good chunk of my time. We are all getting used to a plan and new routine. Which has taken quite a bit of trial and error and patience. Not only have I been focused on our new homeschool Year, I have also been focused on my business with Usborne Books and More.

So here I am, giving you every excuse for why I have not been writing. I apologize. I need to write more. Writing is in my blood and it is my passion. Whether or not anyone enjoys my writing is up for debate! But at this time I am going to have to try and fit it in whenever I can.

 

How has our homeschooling year been going?

We are started our fourth week and I am happy to report we have had more good days than bad. That’s not to say we don’t have bad days. There are days were I have questioned our decision to homeschool. It would be easier just to send them to a brick and mortar building for 8 hours, wouldn’t it? I would have more time for myself. I would be able to focus on what I want to do, right? Like writing for instance. My desire is to be a writer after all. I would have time to pursue it.

So why don’t I?

On the days that I question my motives, my abilities, my desires, and all our decisions for our life, I think about the two reasons my husband and I have made the decision to homeschool together. The first one’s name starts with a B and the other one’s name starts with an S. They are the reasons we make the majority of our decisions. Even if it means putting certain dreams, desires, and goals on hold for ourselves. Even if it means making sacrifices where sometimes we would rather not make sacrifices. There are certain goals and desires we have for our children and for their lives. So on the days I question everything, I think about them.

Right now I am sitting inside. Supper is in the oven. My children are outside with their Daddy. They are currently taking handfuls of mud and spreading it all over their bodies. (Daddy is in charge of bath tonight!) Their giggles sound like music to my ears. I could have missed this. Yes mud is messy. Yes mud is yucky. But they will grow up and remember that time they were able to get muddy and dirty with their sister, without a care in the world. Isn’t that my job as a Parent? To make sure their childhood is worry-free, care-free, and full of cherished and warm memories?

The alternate reality is this:

My oldest could be coming home from spending eight hours inside a brick and mortar building, bogged down with homework and exhausted. Separated from her sister and me for the majority of the day. Her sister not far behind her in years to come. I don’t want that. My husband and I have decided against that reality for our children. We want an atmosphere of learning day in and day out. We want to cultivate a love of learning in our children.

This is the way we have decided to do it.

If it means my days are filled with markers, crayons, and paper. Glitter and glue. Then I am okay with that. Maybe it means saying yes when my daughters beg to put on their tutus and dance while we listen to Nutcracker Suite, Eine Kleine Nachtmusik, Swan Lake and Carmen Suite no. 2 for two hours everyday, I’m okay with that. If it means we do handwriting practice in our PJ’s or Coffee (and apple juice) and books as many times as we can fit it into a day, that’s okay too. It may mean my writing gets pushed to the back burner for a few months, I’m okay with it. If it means putting on hold working my way up in the Usborne Business, I am okay with that too.

We have goals and desires for our children. So as I sit and listen to their giggles and the memories they are making, I am confident to say we made the right decision.

It may make our day and priorities look strange to you. But I am okay with that.